Be glad that you don't have teenage daughters that berate you for even asking a question about it. My daughter grew up with a girl that is now "they" and if I refer to her as she/her, they don't want to talk to me for days. Well, excuse me that I've known her for 15 years as a girl so it's just what naturally comes out of my mouth. They roll their eyes at us that we are so "stuck in our ways" and not evolving. I gave up.