I bet that felt REALLY shitty. Not sure how much I agree with the denial and enabling label for you, since it doesn't seem like you did much of either. I think at rehabs they just automatically put you in these labeled categories. I guess you were supposed to just kick him out, that wouldn't be enabling. It's definitely not that easy. My mom is an alcoholic that never got help, but the state sends her money every month since she's had an aneurysm... which is COMPLETELY enabling her. Free money for booze! I had an alcohol problem that I wasn't in denial about and chose sobriety but no one enabled me, including my husband. It was all MY doing. Thanks for being vulnerable!