I hear you and feel you, Deb. I have wanted to write something like this but haven't yet. I think because it's like beating a dead horse with one of my family members that would likely read it. He won't change - which is sad. It's hard to understand but I know his dad was the same way - so it was learned but I did not adopt the same beliefs - the buck stops here. In return, my girls are so accepting. I feel like that is what we can do in our power in this hateful world.