I refrained from commenting until this because I was just going to do a big one at the end but..... YES to this. All you can do is accept it, she will not change. I mean, it's been 50 years and she hasn't yet. But, no you don't have to take the abuse!! That is why I let go of mine. There are so many other factors but I won't continue to be let down, abused, or hurt.