My husband is like your son. Amazing in almost every other area but he doesn't do anything around the house. It was my doing in the beginning, as I would do everything, but now I don't. I stopped doing anything related to him: his laundry, the toilet he uses because I have another and refuse to use that gross one, or any of his dishes. It took a long time but I was fed up! She should not start doing it all now or she's in for it, LOL!