Wow, this was so well-written and I have so many tears. The title says it all. The hoodies... oh boy. Obviously this all resonated. I do wonder if their sexuality brings up a lot of these emotions? My daughter is bi and has a girlfriend right now and she started all of this when she was figuring that out.

It gives me great hope to read this and see that you've both made it out the other side. Some things are so hard to understand. It makes a huge impact that you relinquished control and surrendered - that is huge. It is so hard to not want to fix everything but this can't be fixed by the parent, I think.

The fact that she noticed that and said that to you had me crying happy tears! <3

So raw and real, thank you for sharing.